Don’t Try to Appear Right
A couple of years ago I was playing the game Cranium with some friends. It was my turn to get my teammate to guess my humdinger(click here if you don’t know what that means). I picked up the card, it was a song I knew I should know and I was very embarrassed that I couldn’t remember how it went. So I did the next best thing and hummed a different song by the same artist and explained what my teammate should be guessing was a very related popular song. In the end he did guess it and I was relieved that I didn’t lose us a turn for my brain’s incompetence, but the rest of our group found it funny that I couldn’t remember or hum the Star Wars main title theme. I got more embarrassed so I decided to do something. I started to
make up explain the fact that it was actually much harder to remember the opening theme because it isn’t used anywhere else in the movie, because the Imperial March is much more memorable, because people usually talk through the opening sequence anyways, etc. I tried to explain that people should think its difficult to remember one of the most iconic movie openings in the history of film. It was a huge lie and I was stupid for thinking I made myself seem smarter because of it. I had a choice to laugh it off, shrug my shoulders and remember how to properly hum the song in the future but instead I desperately tried to show that I was ‘right’. I made the wrong choice.
Why trying to appear right all the time is lame:
- Its fake and you know it. What good is it to appear right when you know you were wrong?
- Its fake and they know it. If others can blatantly see you trying to appear right all the time they will lose respect for you.
- You will seem arrogant to others.
You can never be right all the time. Don’t let this get you down and don’t try to fight it! Instead, embrace the fact that you can’t be right 100% of the time, and you don’t need to be! Start to recognize when you are wrong and use it as an opportunity to learn for next time.
Why learning is cool:
- You learn something new that you didn’t before.
- It is an important skill to have; if you can’t learn anything then you aren’t going to go very far in life.
- People will respect you more when you learn something from them, or when they learn something from you.
If you are ever faced with this choice I encourage you to learn instead of trying to appear right. I’ve been trying this and its amazing how much more you learn when you aren’t wasting energy trying to prove how much you already know.